Note: Believing/accepting the turth of an Alzheimer’s diagnosis is hard for both the person with Alzheimers and those around him or her who love that person. It is a grief without death, a living sword that poises overhead slowly descending, prolonging fear and grief. Caregivers often deny the extent to which a loved one has declined because it means giving up so much and it means telling that person he or she can no longer drive or be part of bridge club or other activities. It means having to assume responsibility for cooking, making major decisions and a thousand other things. For the patient the loss of abilities to do things is frightening and frustrating. For the caregiver, having to take on so much responsibility is overwhelming a reason for denial and a cause of intense anger.